Why Divorce....??

People get married and some of them don't know how to stipulate marriage. Yeah!! it's really difficult to interpret marriage. You are not married with gun point on your head. You prefer your marriage with the person whom you really wanted to spend rest of your living with strong bond. When you first marry, both of you will make a commitment saying I won't leave you alone, feel alone and will be together in any difficulties till the last breathe. All of your companion will wish "Happy Married Life". But you will not know how hard will be your married life. 

Before tomorrow people think marrying is something that should be unpretentious and one of the trouble-free work of your life. For those people I think you are having misconcept with the meaning and authority. At home being somebody's wife/husband is a great influence you are taking. Living with someone whom you really love is enjoyable and you are fortunate to have that person but  after marrying that person did you ever ask your partner "are you merry with me". " Do you love to stay in this house". "don't you love to roam around with me sometimes". Don't you feel annoying staying always at home??. Ask those questions to your partner so that you will be updating the information about your happy home. 

Some people think wife should stay at home and do everything. Treating them as if your servant isn't define your purpose of marrying her. If you could think your wife is a giver who gives you food when you are hungry, water when you are thirsty because you will depend on her even to pour water in your mug. She gives you a clean clothes to wear which will help you to look presentable infront of others. Your home is properly managed to safe your dignity when your colleague visits your home. But you never have courtesy to ask about their comfortability. They never know how hard that wife will face to adopt in the environment. The husband is always busy with his work and when they reach home, wife will start to complain saying, "Honey!! I am not enjoying the place when you left for office". "Our neighbors are not frank". Let us shift the house please Honey.... Then he will yelled "why you are complaining with silly things dear,  if they are not frank then why you have to talk, stay at home. I am so tired, let us talk in the morning. You won't be feeling tired because you are having no work at home other than complaining". 

If you are not concerned about your partner then how can that person will know that you really want her. You are spending most of the time in the office and did you ever ask your wife. "Wify let us go to your relatives house to have lunch and have dinner in the hotel with our colleagues". "Would you love to visit my office tomorrow because there is promotion ceremony". I would like to introduce you to my boss. Ask those things sometimes that will make your relation more stronger. 

Sharing of same bed does not mean you are his/her entire joy and sorrows. Your purpose should meet all the desire that actually benefits both of you.  You should work as a team, team that will never break. You should be as a bird with two wings, if anyone of the wing is broken another should be helping. Do you know...??? How partners of today give values..??? I could say both men as well as women. I will suggest that if you really want to insult, want to criticize your partner infront of the public, in the society about your partner, why don't you leave him or her immediately. Why do you have to announce that you are not meant for each other.... Safe your time and energy, at the same time your unbending principle infront of others. 

I witness, lots of female partners getting victims in such senerios. The male partner saying, "I know I can get better than you idiot,  you does not know anything because you are uneducated. Your parents are just shits depending on me and now look how I have been with no shoes at home after marrying with you. I got nothing from you, rather I lost all my savings and now it's zero balance in my bank account, after my marriage I am not able to afford for my T-shirt also,  you poor.... I am so unfortunate  to meet with you. Even then she bears knowing that you love her conditionaly. And she never ask for you, she starts to work on her own, she will never complain her parents, family instead she will say, yeah he is so nice, so caring one. Don't you think she is hurt....?? The female (mother of earth) is having most unbearable ache but she can't share with anyone.

Some men will criticize his wife in society saying, she is my wife who does not know how to respect her husband and you know how harsh food I had so long because my wife does not know how to prepare delicious meals. It's better to have meals in hotel infront of my office. I usually does not like her attitude towards me and you know her parents status is poorer than a begger. Laughing at her proudly, still she says, OK dear, it's enough now.  If she happen to yell at him, he will not hesitate to insult her even more. She silently enter her room and pretend to sleep so that she can hide her tears. However, the situation is women will never say I will give up on you, and they will definitely give up when her partner decides to leave her. 

Do not judge your partner comparing them with you, with others incase of education, qualifications, professional, age difference and with the balance in your account after the marriage that you were blind before marrying the person but you could notice when you happen to spend together. If you can't bring happiness in others life nor in your life stop giving suffer to those who is actually enjoying their pain before but you are adding more. 

Do you ever think??? My partner will feel 

offended and embrace if I insult her in public and that you actually do not want to see. But if you have any comments on her work, solve it at home why to broadcast. You are a genius if you can change yourself to fit with your partner and so intelligent if you could bring your partner as you want. As said by someone " Be Roman when you are at Rome". If not you won't deserve to be his/her opposite partner. That way many families are broken down. 

                         By : Sangay Lhamo

                       Email: lhamo1191@gmail.com